{"id":3339,"date":"2014-01-29T17:41:22","date_gmt":"2014-01-29T23:41:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/?p=3339"},"modified":"2023-07-20T21:00:04","modified_gmt":"2023-07-20T21:00:04","slug":"a-love-story-to-be-shurr","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.jodystaples.com\/main\/a-love-story-to-be-shurr\/","title":{"rendered":"A Love Story To Be Shurr"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I don\u2019t turn directly to the obituaries in the paper each morning..but I do tend to linger over them longer than I used to; probably because I\u2019m astounded at the growing number of people younger than me who have met their demise.<\/p>\n<p>You can learn a lot about people in the obituaries..or very little..depending on how much money the surviving families are willing to shell out for the paper to print the long version of their lost loved one\u2019s life history.<\/p>\n<p>Occasionally, there are people with the same last name appearing in the obits which usually means some sort of tragic accident has occurred. But when I saw this in last Friday\u2019s Argus it appeared as if John and Bernita Shurr..both 95 and having spent 73 years of their life together, died because they just couldn\u2019t go on living without each other.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-obit1.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3341\" alt=\"shurr obit\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-obit1.jpg\" width=\"464\" height=\"308\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>Throughout his long life, John Shurr was proud of his Irish ancestry and loved the fact that he was born on St. Patrick\u2019s Day, March 17<sup>th<\/sup>, 1918. \u00a0He probably was also proud of being the heir apparent to Lone Tree, the farm homesteaded by his grandparents, near Ellsworth, Minnesota..although he may have been considering another career when after high school he enrolled in Mankato State College. It was there he met and fell in love with fellow student, Bernita Bell who was born on a farm near Walnut Grove, Minnesota about 60 miles Northeast of John also in 1918. They were married in 1940 and moved to a small house on the homestead where John continued working while he sorted out his future and Bernita continued a family tradition of teaching school that went back five generations. When World War II broke out, John wasn\u2019t called up because as the only son, he was needed at the farm. Then in 1943, his father died suddenly..leaving no choice about what John\u2019s lot in life would be. So, for the next 69 years he and Bernita ruled the roost that was..and is.. the Shurr family farm called \u201cLone Tree.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>They had two sons, George and Robert, became actively involved in their church and community, read profusely, and were loved and admired by family and friends.<\/p>\n<p>When tough decisions had to be made about moving into assisted living..then to an Ellsworth nursing home, John and Bernita accepted it gracefully as long as they could be together.<\/p>\n<p>Dying a week apart, then, wasn\u2019t all that unusual.<\/p>\n<p>Still, I thought, there might be something more to their story so I took a chance this past week and gave the Shurr\u2019s son, George a call and discovered that yes, of course, there\u2019s always more.<\/p>\n<p>By all accounts, John Shurr did well in his 91 years at Lone Tree. He was a good farmer who worked hard and played hard too..especially baseball and softball in his younger days. George says his dad was a quiet, friendly and humble man who loved studying and talking about history, philosophy, religion and, of course sports..especially his beloved Minnesota \u00a0Twins and Vikings.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_3342\" style=\"width: 446px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-at-sons-wedding-1965.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3342\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3342\" alt=\"That's John and Bernita Shurr on the right at the wedding of their son, George to his wife Margaret in 1965\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-at-sons-wedding-1965.jpg\" width=\"436\" height=\"442\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-3342\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">That&#8217;s John and Bernita Shurr on the right at the wedding of their son, George to his wife Margaret in 1965<\/p><\/div>\n<p>\u201cMom, on the other hand, was one of the first \u2018women\u2019s libbers\u2019.\u00a0 She was one of the first to take up the cause of fairness for Native Americans. Her intellectual curiosity was insatiable.\u201d George said. \u201cShe was always reading up and taking a stand on various social issues including opposition to the Vietnam War when U.S. involvement began growing during the Johnson administration.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>John and Bernita had personal reasons for concern. Their \u00a0son, Robert was high on the draft list so he chose to enlist in the U.S. Army. That was in 1969.<\/p>\n<p>On April 13<sup>th<\/sup>\u00a0 1970, Specialist 6 Robert J. Shurr was killed instantly by an enemy grenade in Quang Tri Province, South Vietnam.\u00a0 He was 24.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-robert-vietnam-19701.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-3344\" alt=\"shurr robert vietnam 1970\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-robert-vietnam-19701.jpg\" width=\"274\" height=\"402\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<dl class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\" id=\"attachment_3343\" style=\"width: 419px\">\n<dt class=\"wp-caption-dt\">Robert J. Shurr \u00a0<\/dt>\n<\/dl>\n<p>When the news reached Lone Tree farm, Bernita was inconsolable suffering from a mixture of devastation and rage. \u201cEventually, George says, Dad came around to dealing with Bob\u2019s death but I don\u2019t think Mom ever did and, all her life, has continued to bend politician\u2019s ears about war and other government pursuits she didn\u2019t agree with. She really had high hopes for President Obama.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;They&#8217;ve tried to make the best out of being off the farm and having to live in a home,&#8221; George told me. \u201cMom was still plenty feisty,\u201d but when dad\u2019s hearing aids went bad, she became frustrated when he couldn\u2019t be her sounding board about things she\u2019d read or was thinking and she started to drift into dementia. But she seemed to perk up some once he got the repaired hearing aids back.\u201d<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_3345\" style=\"width: 483px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-john-and-bernita-together-at-home.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3345\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3345\" alt=\"John and Bernita with two of their great grandchildren.\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-john-and-bernita-together-at-home.jpg\" width=\"473\" height=\"317\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-3345\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">John and Bernita with two of their great grandchildren.<\/p><\/div>\n<div id=\"attachment_3346\" style=\"width: 498px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-valentine-queen.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3346\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3346\" alt=\"King and Queen of Valentine's Day at Parkview Manor 2012\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-valentine-queen.jpg\" width=\"488\" height=\"366\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-3346\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">King and Queen of Valentine&#8217;s Day at Parkview Manor 2012<\/p><\/div>\n<div id=\"attachment_3347\" style=\"width: 461px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><a href=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-at-xmas.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-3347\" class=\"size-full wp-image-3347\" alt=\"This past Christmas with son George who along with his wife Margaret have been faithful visitors and helpers at the home taking care of mom and dad.\" src=\"http:\/\/blog.keloland.com\/lund\/files\/2014\/01\/shurr-at-xmas.jpg\" width=\"451\" height=\"338\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-3347\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">This past Christmas with son George who along with his wife Margaret have been faithful visitors and helpers at the home taking care of mom and dad.<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Both John and Bernita were pretty good at Christmas but after the first of the year, it was clear that time was running out. And, so it did for John on the 14<sup>th<\/sup>.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know what..if anything..was said as she held his hand at the end. \u00a0I would imagine they\u2019d talked about this very moment before. \u00a0I\u2019d like to think it was something like, \u201cWait for me dear, I\u2019ll be right behind you.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Because it was going to take awhile for all the family members to get home, John\u2019s funeral was delayed.\u00a0 As it turns out, that was meant to be because 8 days later, Bernita joined him on the other side.<\/p>\n<p>They\u2019ll be laid to rest together following a 2:30 p.m. service on Friday January 31<sup>st<\/sup> at the Jurrens Funeral Home in Rock Rapids, Iowa.<\/p>\n<p>I was curious about whether or not it was possible that Bernita just decided she didn\u2019t wish to live on without John and let go. Their son, George believes it to be true.<\/p>\n<p>I thought I\u2019d ask someone who might not be so emotionally invested in the issue so I talked with Mike Werner the longtime administrator of Parkview Manor. He basically said the science says no but the romantic in him says sure..why not?<\/p>\n<p>He did say this though: \u201cDoug, did you happen to count the days both John and Bernita actually lived on this earth? They\u2019re EXACTLY the same 95 years 9 months and 28 days.\u00a0 Now what are the odds of that? That seems a little beyond coincidence doesn\u2019t it?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I don\u2019t turn directly to the obituaries in the paper each morning..but I do tend to linger over them longer than I used to; probably because I\u2019m astounded at the growing number of people younger than me who have met their demise. 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